I had family there but rarely went back for anything but funerals. My husband had family there and insisted on spending every single holiday there to shut his mother up.
There was no love involved in it , just her demanding and him complying.
It wouldn't be long after arriving before it began.
Usually the first thing out of her mouth was the latest talk of who's pregnant. Her favorite saying was
" Until you have a child you will never be a real woman".
It used to infuriate her no end that I was so different from them. I worked because I had always worked and all the women in my family worked. They had to support those kids with no men around. The women in my family didn't chase after child support. If the man didn't want to be involved then so be it. There weren't many men around but you know sometimes that's a good thing.
In my husband's family none of the women work.
They think women should have children and chase child support and live on the system. Working is beneath them.
Seriously , that's how they feel.
They have lots of kids by lots of different men and spend a lot of time going to court attaching pay checks.
They're so triumphant about taking what they feel they deserve for their services.
Those men would be better off going to prostitutes , you only pay once.
They raise their children to do the same. They hated me.
Not the kids , it's funny but their kids liked me even though I correct them or discipline them , however their mother's did not.
After spending the entire holiday there , because they're so backward you weren't allowed to get a motel room , you had to stay there even though there was no where to sleep and no bathrooms and no hospitality , the sixteen hour drive home is not pleasant.
I put and end to it three years ago. Now the only time I'll ever see them again is at their funerals.
Well I won't see them because I don't look at corpses in coffins. We mostly cremate in my family so burials are really morbid for me.
No worries though because my husband still supports his younger brother. He has for the last sixteen years.
Sixteen years ago he came to me and said I'm going to give him a job to get him started so he can leave WV.
He's supported him ever since. I'll go into my husband's motivations later.
This is about WV.
I couldn't wait to get out and never wanted to go back but funerals do occur.
Being thrust into it brings it all back , the way they always wanted me to change to be like them. I always felt like I was being tested.
My family basically accepts me because they're used to me but there were occasions when I would have my hand forced and I would have to be involved , usually to protect someone else.
I could always take my own beatings but I can't stand to watch someone being taken advantage of if I can do something about it. It's always come back to bite me in the ass but that's another chapter.
I'm skipping to this WV scene as it's printed and scanned and I'm busy getting ready for Chinese New Year.
I'll fill it in later.
It's kind of amusing because I teach Keanu how to sway dance.
Probably don't know what that is but you will soon.
A little mood music ...
Cheers , Amelie
